1. “Everyone has a little ADHD these days.”
This might sound like you’re trying to empathize, but it actually minimizes the real struggles of someone with ADHD. ADHD is a medical condition that affects daily life in significant ways, unlike occasional forgetfulness or distraction.
2. “You just need to try harder.”
People with ADHD often work twice as hard just to keep up. Telling them to try harder can be discouraging and overlooks the challenges they face.
3. “ADHD isn’t real.”
ADHD is recognized by major medical organizations worldwide. Dismissing it as fake can be hurtful and invalidating to those who live with it every day.
4. “You must be really lazy.”
Laziness has nothing to do with ADHD. In fact, people with ADHD often put in extra effort to manage their symptoms and responsibilities.
5. “Why don’t you just take your meds?”
Medication can help manage ADHD symptoms, but it’s not a cure-all. People with ADHD usually need a combination of strategies to cope effectively.
6. “You’re just using ADHD as an excuse.”
Most people with ADHD don’t want to use it as an excuse. They’re looking for understanding and support, not a way to get out of responsibilities.
7. “You seem normal to me.”
Many people with ADHD have learned to mask their symptoms. Just because someone appears to be managing well doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling internally.
8. “You’re too smart to have ADHD.”
ADHD affects people of all intelligence levels. Being smart doesn’t protect someone from the challenges of ADHD.
9. “But you can focus on things you like.”
Hyperfocus on enjoyable activities is a symptom of ADHD. It doesn’t mean they can control their attention at will.
10. “I wish I had ADHD so I could be more creative.”
While some people with ADHD are very creative, the condition also comes with many challenges that can be quite difficult to manage.
11. “Can’t you just get organized?”
Organization is often a major struggle for people with ADHD. Suggesting they just get organized can feel dismissive of their efforts and challenges.
12. “You don’t look like you have ADHD.”
There’s no one way to look like you have ADHD. It’s an invisible condition that affects each person differently.
Remember, empathy and support go a long way. If someone shares their ADHD experience with you, listen and try to understand their perspective.
